Pain is often the most powerful motivating force for change.
At some point in our lives we will all face a personal or professional challenge that knocks us off-balance and threatens the security of our familiar world. Creating space to explore what's going on is the first step towards understanding and overcoming your discomfort.
Whilst the stigma of therapy has lifted, there’s still a prevailing assumption that you have to be experiencing a crisis in order to seek help. In reality more and more people are approaching therapy as a self-development tool and a preventative measure. I believe that mental health is just as important as physical health. We invest in our bodies so why not invest in our minds?
I have experience working with a wide range of emotional, behavioural and relational difficulties including;
Anxiety disorder/panic attacks
Depression/loss of meaning
Lack of confidence/self-esteem
I have a particular interest in working with millennials. As a millennial myself I have firsthand experience of the complexity of issues contributing to this generations anxiety.
Research shows that millennials feel more pressure to succeed than any other generation which creates immense stress, insecurity and fear.
In an age of instant information, external validation and overstimulation it's no wonder you're feeling anxious and overwhelmed. You face an incredible amount of decisions and pressures. Having so many choices is exhausting and can often lead to paralysis. You may be struggling with:
shaping a sense of personal identity
challenges, insecurities and fears that come with independence
choosing a career path
feeling pressure to succeed and shame for struggling
LACK OF MOTIVATION
navigating online dating, intimate relationships and friendships
You are suffering for a reason and it's not your fault. Overexposure to everything happening in the world, 24 hours a day, seven days a week makes it difficult to turn things off, including your thoughts.
You may be asking, ‘Is this it? Am I failing at life? How does everyone else seem to have it figured out?’ You’ve been given the message that if you work hard you’ll land yourself a great career. ‘Just do what you love and you’ll be successful.’ This is often at odds with reality which tends to leave you feeling disillusioned and depressed. Maybe you secured your dream job but still doubt your self-worth. You’ve grown up in a comparison culture and endlessly wonder if who you are is good enough.
In the carefully curated age of social media there’s immense pressure to prove your worthiness to the world. But this hustle for worthiness provides temporary confidence at best and perpetuates deep insecurities at worst.
Perhaps you're feeling stuck in a relationship or maybe you’re struggling to find connection. Your friends are getting married and you’re feeling lonely and left behind. Modern day dating may seem unfathomable and you’re worried that there’s something wrong with you. The good news is that you’re perfectly normal and you’re not alone!
Are you in a cycle of behaviour or a thought pattern that you’d like to change but don't know how? Therapy provides a useful reflective space to press pause and begin to untangle what you’re feeling. It's also possible that you don’t know what's bothering you but you have a general sense of something being ‘off.’ Together we can explore what’s going on beneath the surface.
The process of therapy can also take you towards a deeper understanding of issues stemming from your history and how this is impacting your current life situation. Often it’s helpful to understand where we’ve come from so that we can make a more conscious choice about where we’d like to go. I will support you to connect to a sense of purpose in your life, questioning what is meaningful, and how to live according to your values.
You won’t lose any life points for admitting that you’re having a hard time. In fact research shows that admitting to our difficulties often strengthens our connection to others. Given that most of us will feel lonely and/or isolated at one time or another, this doesn’t seem like such a bad idea.